Harassment in laboratory

I am a computer scientist and work with electronic circuits. We have several stories from several projects, as feminists there...

In our group, we are 2 women and 1 non-binary, the rest are cis male. I have a problem with a colleague who acts like a boss. Sounds not serious when you say it, but when you live it, it's violent. He has two ways of treating me, depending on if I dress feminine or masculine. Because he treats men and women differently... Either he wants to date me, or he wants to beat me, either I'm his buddy, or he belittles me. Anyway, he treats me as a child, as I am stupid. When I tell this story, my friends tell me "you have to understand where he comes from"... and I do, everyone has trauma, right?

I take a breath and reduce myself, saying sorry, trying to explain to him what we do. He maybe feels he is not included in feminist events. What he is doing looks like the initial stage of an abusive relationship. He published in the newspaper about the laboratory we are part of, without telling us.

We have a problem because we have different principles. We have different views about the principles...

He says I have thoughts... I say what kind of thoughts? He answers no, no nothing... --it's manipulation-- The situation is too vague to fit under any legal definition; anyway I don't think legal action should be taken...

The project was supposed to be horizontal, but now this guy takes all the responsibility.

Shared by ★ ttengam, during /ETC Athens 2019 ★